A Few Steps for Good Relationship

Improve Relationships

The joys and pains of relationships are never as pronounced as during Holiday periods. Valentines day is fast approaching, use these seven steps as building blocks to strengthen your relationships. You'll have a more satisfying and joyous hearty period, and so will those close to you.

Although the approaching valentine day provide an immediate incentive, there are also long term benefits to be gained. Reputable studies show a strong correlation between happiness and high quality relationships. It's therefore in our best interests to nurture and build strong relationships for this Love Day season and beyond.

From many articles and studies of the characteristics of strong relationships we can distill the following list of seven important steps or components; think of these as relationship building blocks.

* Commitment
* Freedom
* Respect
* Support
* Equality
* Healthy conflict resolution
* Trust

Committed Relationship

Fundamental to a strong relationship is commitment. Commitment to making the relationship strong and healthy is the foundation on which it can grow. Relationships take work. They take effort. Like life itself, relationships are dynamic, ever changing because we are ever changing. A strong relationship requires continuous nurturing, and that takes commitment.

Commitment to the relationship means unconditionally caring about maintaining and improving the relationship, even during times of anger or disappointment. There may be times when you aren't even sure you like the other person, but if you're committed you'll spend the effort to sustain the relationship during tough times.

Sand Castle

Morning can be defined

Like a castle on the sand

Don't you ever touch

And it will fall apart

And  wind will topple it down

The waves of wrong love

Is its mortal enemy

If the bayou is being kissed

The sand castle will be destroyed

So before we ever speak

Of everlasting promises

To our beloved ones, on our mind and  action

Think it over if your love is true

Even if you crossed a thousand roads

Once two hearts

Vowed to keep their love

Bound by sand castle

Love for short temper

For short and a while

Tears brought by it

Love that happened to us

The shattered sand castle

Addicted

 Addicted to you"

Songs for me

Tired  of

Marathon stories

About you and  the happiness

Brought by you into my life

Protagonist on my mind was you

In the morning and at night

In every minute that passes by

I am looking  for  you

On my mind and in my dreams

For every toss of fate

I am searching for you

I am needing you, even a lifetime

For us to be together

Like in the movies

And our ending

Bring  to my house

With a goodnight

With a night kiss

With good byes…

A Program Instills Reading Values in Kids and Parents

Children whose parents pay less attention to their education may have more difficulty in learning, let alone finding interest in the learning process.

Some parents work long hours, which prevented them from paying attention to their children’s education.

Some of my pupils I interviewed said all they get were verbal reminders. That is how their parents monitored their education.

I think as educator we need to offer program that help pupils improve their reading skills during summer. They might ignore it first but children are adamant. They might send their children off to school on summer to tutoring in reading.

A time-bound reading proficiency program designed by educators for volunteer mentors, the program must include a required training for the volunteers on the proper ways of teaching non-readers. It must create to accelerate the learning abilities of a student through one-on-one mentoring and tailor fitting the special needs of the children still on the reading learning curve.

Enhancing further the program, parents should attend special sessions on how to encourage learning in their children, and in preparing timetables that balance learning and entertainment.

It must be a partnership of three- the mentor, parents, and teachers. I know it is not easy for the children to learn just like that, through motivation and values formation they might learn on the program. I believe children can overcome the challenges.

I believe there is a direct correlation between willingness to learn and the love for reading with socio-economic background, stating that limited resources have an affect the desire to learn. “Socio-economic background also plays a strong part – some of these non-readers work during weekends and their families can ill-afford to spare them to attend a free mentoring program.

I believe a typical non-reader is not stupid. On the contrary, most of them are highly intelligent but they are usually shy or too attached to play so they are left behind by their peers. It is unfortunate that their parents are either illiterate themselves or are too busy to give them the special attention and encouragement they need to learn. If the child has no interest and gets used to underachieving, years will pass and time will come when the child will accept being an under-achiever. However, if we can help them realize the beauty of reading, they use it to improve their lives. Reading is a skill they will never lose.

As educator, the significant contribution we can make to our students was to enable them to appreciate the value of education. I think you can share something with the program I have in mind.

It must highlight how many people are willing to help and be part of the solution. In addition, the most amazing thing is that these volunteers will do it out of love. It will be your contribution to the children’s quality of life.

So feed my mind and share.

 

As Long As I Live

I want to live

for as long as I may

If it will pass

With you in my side

My only prayer

Is your only wish

That the fire within my heart

will not be lost

If separated

I am defeated

I will stop wanting

To go on living,

I love you to know

Until the edge of the world

My dreams about you

Is forever in my soul....

For as long as i live..

For as long as blood runs through my vains,

My life

I will give to you..

When Time Comes

I knew you didn’t know

I am just here

waiting to be loved

hoping

you will …

although you are not seeing

am still here praying

wishing if not today

you will seek and try to find…

If the time comes

maybe it will be me and you

my heart and yours

will beat as one

wish it will happen

even if not at the moment

nor today

maybe someday….

I will keep on waiting

I am dreaming even if not today

you will love me too

I know it will not be tomorrow

maybe….

it will be then….

A Boost

“Who needs an operation to be beautiful and handsome?” my son quoted a day before. So i asked myself, Yes, who needs a lift up operation for a change. How will this effect human being from being a loser to a feeling of champion. How about guilt? Will it make them comfortable and happy and brought them to contentment. Or will it bring them to change more after a period of attaining what they want, needed more and wanting more.


I have shown a picture puzzle to my son. A picture of nose, pair of eyes, lips, shape of face, and ears. I told him not to put it together just look at it individually. He said the owner of this face looks horrible, and ugly. So I asked “ How could he tell?” He said nose is flat, eyes is small and squinted and so on and so forth. I told him to put it all together. And after a while he gasped in disbelief. He knows the guy.

I asked him then, “ Now tell me, does he looks bad?” he said “No!”

“Why?”

He said well, girls really wanted to hook him up. He is the smartest boy in the class. Actually top 1 in his section. He is over confident and he carries himself dignantly. And he said I hate him sometimes for being a machoism ass.

In short, he is a guy hunk.

Hmmmm. If this guy doesn’t have a confidence over himself, sure he will want an operation. Atleast to boost his ego, and add something more and remove something less....

With respect to his feature, he is not perfect. There is no trace of prettiness in him. But how on earth if he passes by, you could hear teens ohhhhs! And ahhhhs!.

First, he is neat. Really neat. From his hair to his toes.

Second, he is smart. In a bunch of hunkies, he can stand out.

Next, he has ego, a personality, and a 500 degrees of confidence.

Who will recognize the imperfectness? No one.

Sometimes we overlooked what nature gives us. We lost the sense of contentment and confidence and end up in an operating room. And then vanity consumed our hearts. Darkness fell upon and every time we look at ourselves in the mirror, we feel horrible. Sometimes feels guilty of not doing this and what is supposed to.

So i asked my son if he felt insecure with “Ilaw” name of the teenboy every time he passes by his room or with the same room? His replied was “no, mom.....I am pretty good with myself...Girls go gaga with me too..I have my own style....

So, what’s next? Simple. What do you feel after going to a saloon? The moment you step out of the saloon, i know you feel contented, pretty and sexy. I hope everyone will hold that moment. And that moment should last. If you are fat and wanted to really look slimmer, begin to discipline yourself. No one will slap your flab to get you move. Always start inside. If you are fat and feel sexy, you look good. Actually look good. I have a friend who doesn’t mind about being fat. And she does look sexy. She is a good dancer and can create a vibrant ambiance. You could feel her personality. And since she is happy within, it glows outside. That is what i am aftering. An aura of simplicity and vibrance. Abounding of self respect and dignity.

So who needs an operation?

As wise man quoted once....” man is always wanting....if it is hot...he wants cold..if it is cold...he wants it hot...always wanting what is not...”



God bless you all...